The following includes a brief overview of the 5 main components (as stated by Daniel Goleman) of Emotional Intelligence. The main identifying characteristics of Emotional Maturity are made possible by the Emotional Intelligence component.
1. Self-awareness: Recognize and understand your own moods and motivations and their effect on others. To achieve this state, you must be able to monitor your own emotional state and identify your own emotions. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
- Sense of humor (can laugh at self)
- Aware of your impression on others (can read the reactions of others to know how you are perceived)
2. Self-Regulation: Controlling your impulses—instead of being quick to react rashly, you can reign in your emotions and think before responding. You express yourself appropriately. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
- Conscientious and take personal responsibility for your own work/deeds.
- Adaptable (and favorable) to change
- When someone is complaining or is rude to you, you do not respond in kind. You respond in a manner which would not escalate the situation. (At this point, you will also realize that when someone expresses anger at you, they’re not always angry at you; they’re often just angry and want to take it out on someone.)
3. Internal Motivation: Internal motivation is marked by an interest in learning. It is also self-improvement vs. a pursuit of wealth and status (as a pursuit of wealth and status is an external motivator). Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
- Initiative and the commitment to complete a task
- Perseverance in the face of adversity
4. Empathy: The ability to understand another person’s emotional reaction. This is only possible when one has achieved self-awareness—as one cannot understand others until they understand themselves. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
- Perceptive of other’s emotions and taking an active interest in their concerns.
- Proactive—able to anticipate someone’s needs and the appropriate reaction.
- Social Situations such as office politics do not phase one who has a firm grasp of empathy.
5. Social Skills: Identifying social cues to establish common ground, manage relationships and build networks. Emotional Maturity in this trait shows:
- Communication: Listening and responding appropriately
- Influence and Leadership: The ability to guide and inspire others
- Conflict Management: The ability to diffuse difficult situations using persuasion and negotiation.
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